The Power of Choice: Choosing to Forgive


Truth is, people are messy. This is everyone, so it includes ourselves. We all make mistakes and fall short of the glory of God. But God can forgive anyone and we need to work on doing the same thing. We need to work on forgiving ourselves for past failures and mistakes and we need to work on forgiving our neighbor also.

We start forgiving ourselves by self examining ourselves. Do an examination of your own heart. We need to be able to look at our past, realize our mistakes and things we need to work on, and move forward from there. A bonus for looking at our past is that while doing so, we also see our accomplishments and our strengths. We are always to examine ourselves like it says to do in 1 Cor 11:28. We need to look at ourselves long and hard and figure out who we were, who we are, and who we want to become. Forgiving ourselves isn’t always easy, but we need to look at it from God’s perspective; if he can forgive us, and He knows everything that we do, we need to be able to forgive ourselves. We need to know our own value.

When we self examine we need to look at how we treat the people around us and ask for forgiveness when we realize we’ve made a mistake. Otherwise there could be conflict and you need to have it resolved to move forward. Matt 5:24 tells us that if we realize we need to be reconciled to our brother to go to him and leave our gift at the altar. We need to be reconciled with one another before we can be reconciled to God.

We also need to be able just forgive and move on when we feel people have done us wrong and not asked for forgiveness. Christ quoted the Old Testament and said we are to love our neighbor and hate our brother. In contrast, Matt 5:44 says love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.
I really struggled with forgiving someone for a long time! But I was able to eventually because I followed what it said to do in the Bible. One of the major themes throughout the Bible is forgiveness. Even though I was upset and angry with someone who hurt me, I was doing my best to move on and forgive. I love them like a sibling in Christ and I pray for them. I pray that God will bless them and help them to continue to move forward in life. This wasn’t easy for me to do at first because I was in a lot of pain, but the more I do pray for them the easier things get for me to not be mad or hurt anymore. I’ve finally gotten to the point that I don’t really feel anger or pain when I see this person anymore because I’ve forgiven them.

As stated earlier, people are messy and we are all going to make mistakes. We need to work on forgiving ourselves and our neighbors. So pray! Pray that God will help you overcome and help you to stop listening to your inner critic that beating you up over your past mistakes. Pray that God will bless you and that people will forgive you when you fall short. And make the choice to forgive others, even if they don’t ask for it. Love your neighbor and bless them!

You are awesome! God knows it and so should you!


One Response to “The Power of Choice: Choosing to Forgive

  • When u can forgive. You can let go of the burden you carry. You actually free yourself.

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